ENFJ

At first I was upset about my decision to come to Patiala rather than Rishikesh. Rishikesh is yoga capital of the WORLD! WOW imagine that! I was thinking that since everyone else was going there to get enlightened, maybe I should too.

What's that?? OH RIGHT. The Universe puts me exactly where I need to be. Always. Why is this so hard to remember??? Hah I'm working on it.

Everyone I've met here has given me some sort of something to learn or work on.

First lets talk about Holly. OOOH Holly, fellow Burner, Canadian with a slight British accent, and all about the MYERS BRIGGS PERSONALITY TEST. She is ENTP, btw, like another of my favorite persons. Little wonderful Sagittarians, I can never get enough of them.

She turned me on to this wonderful way to understand the people around me more fully. And of course, to understand my self more fully too! Which is the game I've been playing all out lately.

I am an ENFJ!!!! Extroverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging!!! AKA **THE GIVER**

"As an ENFJ your primary mode of living is focused externally, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit into your personal value system. Your secondary mode is internal, where you take things in primarily via your intuition.

ENFJ's are people focused individuals. They live in the world of people possibilities. More so than any other type, they have excellent people skills. They understand and care about people, and have a special talent for bringing out the best in others. ENFJ's main interest is giving love, support, and a good time to other people. They are focused on understanding, supporting, and encouraging others. They make things happen for people, and get their best personal satisfaction from this.

Because ENFJ's people skills are so extraordinary, they have the ability to make people do exactly what they want them to do. They get under people's skins and get the reactions that they are seeking. ENFJ's motives are usually unselfish, but ENFJs who have developed less than ideally have been known to use their power over people to manipulate them.

ENFJ's are so externally focused, that it's especially important for them to spend time alone. This can be difficult for some ENFJ's because they have the tendency to be hard on themselves and turn to dark thoughts when alone. Consequently, ENFJ's might avoid being alone, and fill their lives with activities involving other people. ENFJ's tend to define their life's direction and priorities according to other people's needs, and may not be aware of their own needs. Its natural to their personality type that they will tend to place other's needs above their own, but they need to stay aware of their own needs to that they don't sacrifice themselves in their drive to help others.

ENFJ's tend to be more reserved about exposing themselves than other extroverted types. Although they may have strongly felt beliefs, they're likely to refrain from expressing them if doing so would interfere with bringing out the best in others. Because their strongest interest lies in being a catalyst of change in other people, they're likely to interact with others on their own level, in a chameleon-like manner, rather than individuals.

Which is not to say the ENFJ does not have an opinion. ENFJ's have definite values and opinions which they're able to express clearly and succinctly. These beliefs will be expressed as long as they're not too personal. ENFJ is in many ways expressive and open, but is more focused on being responsive and supportive to others. When faced with a conflict between a strongly held value and serving another person's need, they are highly likely to value the other person's needs.

The ENFJ may feel quite lonely even when surrounded by people. This feeling of aloneness may be exacerbated by the tendency to not reveal their true selves.

People love ENFJ's. They are fun to be with and truly understand and love people. They are typically very straightforward and honest. Usually ENFJ's exude a lot of self confidence and have a great amount of ability to do different things. They are generally bright, full of potential, energetic, and fast paced. They are usually good at anything that captures their interest.

ENFJ's like for things to be well-organized, and will work hard at maintaining structure and resolving ambiguity. They have a tendency to be fussy, especially with their home environments.

In the work place, ENFJ's do well in positions where they deal with people. They are naturals for the social committee. Their uncanny ability to understand people and say just what needs to be said to make them happy makes them naturals for counseling. They enjoy being the center of attention, and do very well in situations where they can inspire and lead others, such as teaching.

ENFJ's do not like dealing with impersonal reasoning. They don't understand or appreciate its merit, and will be unhappy in situations where they're forced to deal with logic and facts without any connection to a human element. Living in the world of people possibilities, they enjoy their plans more than their achievements. They get excited about possibilities for the future, but may become easily bored and restless with the present.

ENFJ's have a special gift with people, and are basically happy people when they can use that gift to help others. They get their best satisfaction from serving others. Their genuine interest in humankind and their exceptional intuitive awareness of people makes them able to draw out even the most reserved individuals.

ENFJ's have a strong need for close, intimate relationships, and will put forth a lot of effort in creating and maintaining these relationships. They're very loyal and trustworthy once in a relationship.

An ENFJ who has not developed their feeling side may have difficulty making good decisions, and may rely heavily on other people in decision making processes. If they have not developed their intuition, they may not be able to see possibilities, and will judge things too quickly based on established value systems or social rules, without really understanding the current situation. An ENFJ who has not found their place in the world is likely to be extremely sensitive to criticism, and to have the tendency to worry excessively and feel guilty. They are also likely to be very manipulative and controlling with others.

In general, ENFJ's are charming, warm, gracious, creative, and diverse individuals with richly developed insights into what makes other people tick. This special ability to see growth potential in others combined with a genuine drive to help people makes ENFJ a truely valued individual. As giving and caring as the ENFJ is, they need to remember to value their own needs as well as the needs of others."